I didn't know who I was.

I'd been seven things to other people for so long there was nothing underneath.

There was a version of me who used to stand on his own on a Tuesday afternoon, going back over something he thought he'd done wrong, working the worst outcome through in his head.

Always the afternoon. Always just before having to go home.

Not going home. Having to.

  • Father
  • Carer
  • Cleaner
  • Husband
  • Cook
  • Gardener
  • Income earner

I never really thought about it. That's what we do — knuckle down, get the job done, make sure the kids are happy, the wife's happy, the house is running.

Look at that list again. I'm not on it.

Then my wife and I separated.

I didn't know who I was. I didn't know what I had to do.

My whole identity had been a set of instructions. When the instructions went, so did I.

I numbed it in the ordinary ways. Threw myself at work. Quit a job, started another, quit that one too. If you've been there you'll know exactly what I mean — and you'll know that none of it touches the sides.

What actually worked was smaller and far less interesting

I started walking. I started eating better. I drank less. I started sitting at the Buddhist centre with no real idea what I was doing there.

And slowly I began to notice myself. To enjoy things again. To feel freer. I lost a lot of weight — and not just the physical weight. The emotional weight lifted too.

It took me years to work out that I'd stumbled into a system. Breath, food, stillness. Movement, sleep, the space around me. Nature, what I put in my head, writing it down.

Nine things. I call it the RAI Method now, and I teach it — but I lived it first, by accident, because it was simply what worked.

Then I met Linda

We went down the path of NLP, mindset and breathwork properly — the training, the practice, the hours.

And once I understood what it had done to me, keeping it to myself stopped making any sense.

The Reclaim Breakthrough

Eight hours, one to one over Zoom, across two or three sessions.

Breath first — because you cannot reason your way out of a state your body is holding. Then NLP, for what's underneath it. Then the nine life domains, so that it holds once I'm not in the room.

  • Session one — RevealWe find what's actually running the show. The patterns, the beliefs underneath them, and the drivers you've never named. You'll start mapping your Ikigai — purpose, passion, direction.
  • Session two — Regulate & RealignA full breathwork release to move the state, then realigning with what you actually value across the nine life domains.
  • Session three — ReclaimThe next ninety days. Clarity, rituals, identity work — a plan built for the life you actually live, not the one that looks good written down.

$1,500

Including GST. Paid in full before we begin.

I say no to people

If you're dealing with medical depression, this isn't the right room. I'll tell you that on the call, and I'll help you find the room that is.

If you're not going to be honest with yourself, I can't do anything with that. Neither can you, yet.

If you're after an easy fix, there isn't one here. Eight hours with me isn't easier than another two years of managing it. It's just shorter.

Start with a call

Half an hour, free, and no pitch in it. You tell me what's going on and I'll tell you straight whether I'm the right person for it — including when I'm not.

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